I can remember telling my boss I was leaving.
Telling a client that I didn’t care how much she paid me, I wasn’t going to work with her.
Telling a business partner it was over.
Telling an employees they had to change or leave.
We’ve all regretted saying words without thinking in our lives but the biggest regrets come from the words that are never spoken.
The words you wanted to say but couldn’t. Or waited until it was too late.
You can’t grow when someone is weighing you down. You don’t feel good in your skin. And you can’t grow unless you communicate.
If you think you can just sit back and everything will fall in place – it won’t.
It’s hard because you don’t want to upset someone. But it’s also hard because you’re scared. You’re scared of the expression on their face when you tell them.
You’re scared of the backlash that might come from it. But ask yourself, what’s the worse that can happen?
Usually it’s not as bad as what you think.
The only way we can grow is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open.
So do it. Throw yourself out there.
You have one life so don’t waste a minute of it living on autopilot. Have the courage to live deep to jump into those difficult conversations and it will open a whole new door of possibilities for you.
Tip: Start by trying to understand the other person. Ask questions. Everything else follows from there.
Also published on Medium.