I’m sitting here writing this from the most beautiful beach I’ve ever seen. I have to say it’s a little surreal for me. I’m in the Bahamas watching my daughter play with a little girl she just met. Their running to go see the stingrays by the ocean. Her parents sitting next to me say they’ve been sailing to different islands for the last six months along with their two boys. Another group of girls in their thirties from Canada at the table next to me have been sailing like this for nine years.
When we were kids, we were told to follow the rules and to stay inside the box. We are told that going on our own was risky making us fear the unknown. We then grow up as adults overly concerned with our reputation, approval, and the opinion of others. Making us always hesitant or unsure; consequently, we have trouble acting spontaneously or genuinely.
It usually takes a close encounter with death or reminder from someone who dies to make us question. Death reminds us of how much time we have left here. This lady with her children had a death in the family that made her question everything.
When I look back and think about what was stopping me from stepping outside the box and becoming an entrepreneur, it’s because I didn’t think I was worthy. I didn’t think I could do it.
One study showed that 80% of people are going to jobs that they hate. They get sick thinking about it every Sunday.
When you go to a job and you already know there’s a cap on what you can achieve and on how much of a difference you can make – it erodes your self-esteem. It creates an emptiness in you.
I’m not saying you need to quit your job, I’m saying you should be looking for what you are meant to do in this life. Find it and work on it a little at night. Most people don’t take the first step because they don’t know what to do. And we subconsciously don’t believe we can do it.
How much time do you spend working on you? What books have you read? What new skills have you learned? Because that’s the starting point.
Most people don’t live their dreams because of fear. It’s the same reason people stay in bad relationships. They can’t see themselves living without the other person. It’s been passed on to them. It’s all they’ve ever seen or imagined.
Fear kills dreams and hope. Fear ages you and will put you in the hospital if it gets bad enough. Fear paralyzes you from action.
People fear making a mistake, they’re more concerned about trying to be perfect or getting people to like them.
How long will you go on letting fear hold you back? Fear is a state of mind and you need courage to break through it.
Where you are now is a result of the choices you’ve made this far. Now you have to ask yourself if you’re satisfied with where you are? Or are you making excuses? Put another way, do you believe that life has something more for you?
Start to consciously be aware of your inner voices. Learn to build yourself up. Start saying I can do this!
I started as a personal trainer with no money, my family had no money and I felt stupid most of my life. But I had to tell myself “No, no, I can do this Jean-Luc, I’m better than this.”
I saw people that had done it and I said, I can do that too. When I stopped beating myself up, things started to change.
You have to guard yourself against negative people. Life is like an elevator on the way up, you need to let some people out.
Winston Churchill said it best “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself”
Work on yourself and surround yourself with people that lift you up. Write a journal of your thought and your ideas.
Then take the leap, go into action. Yes, there will be challenges but overcoming them will be worth it. And you will be surprised how it will come together.
Also published on Medium.